Guess who's pissed off

Yep. Me. So much for turning my day around.

Tonight I was supposed to hang out with J. I had been looking forward to it because our plans haven't worked out for the last couple of days and I really wanted to see him. He worked today, and I wasn't sure what time he was off, so I waited until around 7 to call him. No answer. I left him a message to call me. I tried calling him again an hour or so later. No answer.

Around 9 he called. He had been out at a friend's house for dinner and they were heading back to his place and he asked if I was coming. I told him no. He was surprised and asked me why not. I explained that I thought we were going to hang out. Just us. I didn't realize that by us hanging out, it meant that I was going to be invited to hang out with him and his friends. I don't mind hanging out with his friends. I like most of his friends. It's the fact that I'm an afterthought in his plans. "Oh right, I think I told my girlfriend I would hang out with her tonight. I better give her a call."

It drives me crazy when he calls me around 8 or 9 and tells me it was his first chance to get to a phone. If you haven't been near a phone, did you use smoke signals to get your friends over there? I feel so stupid when I show up halfway into their night, because he didn't feel the need to pick up his phone/call me until later.

He thought I was mad because he had dinner with his friend from out of town. That wasn't it at all. I just expect that when we make plans to hang out, that maybe I would be included in the plans. Foreign concept? And how hard would it be to call me after work and say, "Hey, my buddy is here from out of town and I'm invited to dinner, so we'll have to hang out later."
That's fine. Have fun. Call me later.

Instead I'm left for hours wondering what the hell happened to him, and waiting for ... what? A night on my couch eating jellybeans. That's what.